Divorce during the holidays is just plain hard. This time of year is supposed to be filled with happiness. You’re stuck in emotional and financial turmoil. You look at everyone around you and feel like life has handed you lemons. Can anything be done to up your holiday cheer? With a bit of planning and forethought you can fill your holidays with more joy than tears.
Surviving the holidays during divorce can be done! You can actually thrive, not just survive. A good dose of positivity, determination, creativity and planning will increase the fun and lessen the blues.
Here’s just a few to Grinch-Proof You!
STRATEGIZE FOR FAMILY GATHERINGS. Be prepared for the awkward. Think of responses before you meet some of those less than supportive family members and “friends” and make sure you have an exit plan. For those more difficult events, you might want to recruit a “wing man”. One quick fail-safe plan for those awkward questions is to turn the conversation around and ask “...and how are you?’ People love to chat about themselves and it will provide cover for you.
TREAT YOURSELF. Taking care of you is so important. Buy a little something you’ve been wanting for some time. Grab a cup of co ee at your favorite place with a friend. Do things that refuel you.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH HUMOR. Laughing with friends releases endorphins, the “feel good” biochemical. Watch a funny movie or a sitcom alone or with a friend.
EXPRESS GRATITUDE. So very important! This frame of mind sets you up to perceive all the good things still in your life. Keep a gratitude journal. Each morning write something down. It can be small. A good cup of coffee, a warm bed, your kids’....Think of as many things as possible. The length of the list might wow you. You definitely will be encouraged! And blessed!
ClearSky Consulting LLC is partnering with Integrative Healing and Wellness in Bay Head to provide you with some dynamite workshops and private consultation to equip you with a new perspective and some great new tools for your journey.
A Divorce Solutions Advisor can help provide direction, as all the pieces of your life need to be reordered. Endlessly googling for attorney’s, financial planners, healthcare advisors, etc and asking family members and friends for referrals can be exhausting and overwhelming. Lezlie Maret, M.A. will help you find through guidance the best attorneys, career planners, healthcare advisors, counselors and much more.
Check our calendar at Integrative Healing and Wellness as we have some great workshops coming up!
January 11, 2018 — “DIVORCE AND FINANCES” workshop will be held. We’ll look at the #1 nail-biter in divorce –your finances. I’ll provide you with some creative ideas to make more money and intelligently handle what you already have.
February 15, 2018 — “COPING WITH LONELINESS AND DIVORCE” workshop. This time together is the place to deal with those dreaded feelings of isolation. In an article written by Emily Holland at the Wall Street Journal on September 12, 2017, loneliness is hazardous to your health. Social isolation and living alone for the first time is a prescription for loneliness. We’ll take a comprehensive look at this huge problem and provide some tried and true solutions.
March 15, 2017 — “THE DATING GAME AND DIVORCE” workshop is going to be fun and informative. We’re going to look at how to jump back into the dating pool! Online dating can be a bit intimidating. We’ll look at how to create an online profile to attract the right attention, be safe and have fun. Also, We’re doing a make-over on a lucky participant!
We hope to see you at a scheduled workshop or assist you in a private consult