Beneficial Solitude

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Beneficial Solitude

The rapid and unexpected changes in daily life can wear down your mental well-being. Being in quarantine really helped me understand the beauty of solitude and quiet. It also allowed me the self-awareness to process my thoughts and the emotions that came with those thoughts. Not something I would do normally unless I was meditating. Our brain and nervous system have a chance to decompress and recharge while in solitude. We become more mindful. I felt a better relationship with myself and those around me. I found that the key to staying on top of your mental health is finding ways to clear your head.


“The dictionary defines loneliness as “sadness because one has no friends or company,” and “the quality of being unfrequented and remote; isolation.” Loneliness is a lack, a feeling that something is missing, a pain, a depression, a need, an incompleteness, an absence of meaningful connection with others. In contrast, aloneness means “separate, apart, or isolated from others,” and “to the exclusion of all others or all else,” and “unique; unequaled; unexcelled.” In contrast, aloneness implies a conscious choice by the individual for quiet solitude and doesn’t carry with it the negative emotional conditions associated with loneliness. Aloneness has also been referred to as “doing nothing,” and a time for personal reflection.”


The importance of solitude can also be looked at as a benefit through meditation and exercise. While doing lots of walking in quarantine I realized that walking was also part of my meditation. I found myself more creative in thinking. I found inspiration through others during my walk, especially from viewing another’s home. Their landscaping, their shutters color, etc. was all very inspirational for me to do work on my own home. The push I needed to get a good project going. The exercise would also help me with increased focus. After finding the inspiration, I would come back home and my focus on completing the task was that much greater. I found myself working on things that brought me more joy and happiness. Even engrossing myself in writing or focusing on my many businesses helped with a deeper connection to them on a different level.


A break from social media for a few days was also the solitude I needed. Social media moves at a rapid rate and the amount of information and misinformation was upsetting my energy. The overwhelming feeling of it all would make my energy more negative. Just a few hours of solitude form social platforms really helping me to harness more positive energy. I found good distractions in doing funny tiktok videos with my daughter. The laughter was the perfect medicine.


Unfortunately, life isn’t perfect and negative thoughts will be an
unavoidable part of it. However, keep in mind the techniques
and benefits to clear your head and emotions. In the long run,
facing your solitude the right way will pay off better for you
and those around you.

Allison Feehan
Allison Feehan
N.D., D.Psc, CRMT Owner of Integrative Healing and Wellness 732.202.6797 523 Main Avenue Bay Head, NJ

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