Well, it’s the second month of the new year already and usually around this time we have either kept that promise to ourselves or we gave up. New Year’s resolutions are for the birds. I am not going to the negative but the backslide from our original promise can really take a toll on us. So, let’s look
to the positive.
We all strive to want to do better by ourselves and/or our friends and family. This commitment to ourselves or to our friends and family can give us this big boost that we have a fresh start to change the things we have been talking about for so long. A new year can give us that change in energy and the excuse of tradition we need to push ourselves for that change. The self-reflection upon
that annual self-improvement. This year’s energy kind of remained the same for so many of us.
I had predicted that the first quarter of 2021 was going to have some lagging old negative energy from 2020 but not to fret it will start to subside a bit in late in the first quarter into the second.
According to researchers the majority of people make a resolution geared around getting more exercise, eating healthier, losing weight, quitting smoking, just
to name a few top resolutions. “Timothy Pychyl a professor of psychology at Carleton University in Canada, says that resolutions are a form of “cultural procrastination,” an effort to reinvent oneself.” Another psychology professor calls it the “false hope syndrome” meaning that your resolution was unreal-
istic. I don’t know about you but trying to improve one-self is not unrealistic. Perhaps we bite off more than we can chew but it isn’t unrealistic in a nutshell. Granted some asks can appear unrealistic at first, but some just take more time to obtain. You just need to rewire your brain or change
the way you think. Easier said than done, I know but just hear me out.
When we set goals, we’re taught to make them specific and measurable and time bound. But it turns out that those characteristics are preciselythe reasons goals can backfire. A specific, measurable, time-bound goal drives behavior that’s narrowly focused and often leads to either cheating or myopia. Like a couch to 5k. You can’t just run a 5k after
not being a runner. Perhaps you could finish but the 5k might be more like a walk instead of a run. Think of your resolution like a manifestation. Manifestations take time and our constant energy placed there in order to manifest it. A resolution or promise to oneself is similar. What are you manifesting? Write down what you want and or need, place your energy there, water it! It’s like creating an area of focus rather than the goal. Yes, we want that end goal but put certain actions into chunks of actions or focus. Willpower is not a necessarily a character trait that we all are born with. Resolutions and goals are basic energy supply that
a person needs for all other acts of self-control as well as other things, like decision-making. Enjoyment and importance are significant factors in sticking to your promises.
Zero in on your habits and make small adjustments to
those. Make small incremental steps towards your promise.
For example, it takes two-minutes to do or 20 minutes to
do. Keep positive thoughts in mind, daily affirmations towards your
promise to yourself. Try and control your environment in order to be more successful rather than depend on your willpower. And remember to make your rewards enjoyable and important to you. Keep that promise to yourself.